I just love a good suit. I got out of the habit of wearing them for a while, but this ASOS suit is giving me life and getting me back in the swing of things.
You see, a long time ago, before I was a blogger or ran a magazine or even worked as a photographer, I worked in Human Resources at the Department of Veterans Affairs. Weird, right? It was never a good fit and I was never a good employee (they should have fired me many times over), but it was my career for many years when I was sorting out who I was as a human being. I used to dress properly for work, which might have been my favorite thing about working a desk job. You see, I loved a good suit. I love the way it feels to wear and how the lines give you power and confidence. Perhaps dressing like a man gave me the authority to act more like one and to take charge. I know that’s a loaded thought and I can go on a whole dialogue on why that’s fucked up, but I want to stay on point today.
So, I used to have lots of reasons to wear suits, and I even had nice ones! This was circa 2006-2009. Of course, fast fashion had already been a thing for some time, but that didn’t mean you could walk into Forever 21 and buy a nice suit. I was living in Denver at the time, and we didn’t have an H&M or Zara or any of the big stores yet. I used to shop at NY & Co. all the time because they were the only affordable brand that I thought carried quality clothing. So, I had pieces from them, but the rest of my suits were a bit more expensive and most I ordered online or bought on rare occasions when I could shop in other cities. A nice suit still felt like something you had to put some serious care into shopping for.
Fast forward to 2019 and I’m shook. Cheap brands carry some damn good quality suits. This is important for me because I quit wearing them. I don’t have a need to dress nice for work, so if I want a suit to just wear for every day, I find it difficult to justify the cost. That’s not true anymore, it just took me a century to figure that shit out. Like, it hadn’t dawned on me until I started blogging. I’ve been feeling so jealous of fashion bloggers with their dope suits, wearing them all casually with tennis shoes and shit, looking ten shades of fly. When I was working as a photographer, I was putting models in suits all the time for tests. So, why the hell wasn’t I wearing them. Besides, I felt like I was feeling silly for even wanting one. I don’t need a suit!
Sometimes I can be so dense. I must remind myself that I can dress however the fuck I want whenever the fuck I want. I can wear a suit to go grocery shopping and I can wear a gown to the dentist. I have no idea when I started to think I needed permission or a reason to dress a certain way at any given point in time. This blog is really doing wonders for me in some weird ways, although Dave isn’t always terribly happy. The other day, we decided to get some fast food and cheesecake. We were having a lazy day around the house previously. We both went to get dressed, and he came out in jeans and I was in a cocktail dress with loafers and chandelier earrings. Of course, he was like, “WTF are we dressing up or what?” Nah man, I’m just living my best life. Now he gets to deal with some self-confidence issues running around with his overdressed wife. Lolz.
So, on this fabulous Saturday, I’m just here to remind you that what you wear is a reflection of you. It’s your personality and mood and style. There are no rules on how you can dress at any given point at time, excluding work uniforms and shit like that. I just want to remind you that don’t ever, ever let society or self-confidence or opinions or Cosmopolitan or whatever the fuck let you think you don’t have the authority to dress as you see fit. This little suit look may look simple and nothing outlandish, but I had some stupid-ass reservations about wearing something like this, and none of us should ever be that way. If you want to wear your sweats with heels, just do it. If you want to wear a gown to Target, good on ya! You do you, girl. If anyone gives you grief, you send them my way and I’ll set them straight.
You can shop my whole look below via ASOS. Every pieces is legit affordable, so I’m totally winning this round. I also used a laptop bag as a clutch because why the fuck not? The only pieces that’s not available are the shoes because I’ve had them for years, but I added some alternatives that look similar at varying price points.